Warning
For a first, smaller problem. You’ll see exactly which rule and why.
Community rules
Be honest. Be kind. Ask first.
Alap only works if everyone here can trust each other. These rules are short on purpose. Breaking them gets you warned, suspended or removed for good.
Do What we expect
- Be yourself. Your own photos, your real age, your real relationship style.
- Say what you want. Clearly, early and kindly.
- Get a clear yes. For every message, photo and meeting. Silence is not a yes.
- Respect boundaries. If someone’s profile says “ask first” or “not for me”, listen.
- Meet safely. Somewhere public the first time, and tell a friend.
- Report what’s wrong. It helps everyone, and reporting is private.
Never What gets you removed
- Anyone under 18. Removed at once and, where the law requires, reported.
- Selling sex or asking for money. No rate cards, no “gifts”, no paid meetings.
- Harassment. Insults, threats, pressure, or messaging after being told no.
- Fake photos or identity. Pretending to be someone else ends your account.
- Secret affairs. If you say you’re partnered, your partner must know.
- Sharing intimate images of anyone without their consent. Removed within 24 hours of a report, and you’re banned.
- Unwanted explicit photos. Only send what the other person has agreed to receive.
What happens after a report
A person looks. Then we act.
Content removed
A photo, answer or message that breaks the rules comes down.
Suspension
Your profile is hidden while we look into something serious.
Ban
For the “never” list. You don’t come back.